FORGIVE

CHAPTER 2

Forgive

Start from yourself, understand how messed up you are. Learn why you act like you do. Which memories do you have from your childhood and teenage years that have been stuck in your mind. If you remember them it is probably because they have scarred you some way or the other. Like It or not, the environment that we are raised in has a bigger impact than you might think. “Monkey see, Monkey do.”

Once you get to know yourself and understand your imperfections you will be more willing to forgive someone that has broken you. People are victims of their environment, it requires a lot of strength and open mindedness to amend and create a better version of yourself.

When someone has been acting the same way for 20 years their values become a part of their being, they have issues themselves don’t expect them to change. Change will always be scary.

People are messed up, but so are you. 

In a generation that everything is so easy, so many options and everything that your neighbour has is better than yours, values get lost.

This society is narcissistic and sick. This doesn’t apply to everyone but if you analyse someone enough and get to know their past you will understand why some people act like they do. 

Insecurities, choose comfort over values.

People settle, they don’t take risks. It is in our nature, without realising that comfort is poising, it will destroy your joy and the fire inside of you.

At some point in our life we will reject something beautiful or challenging because history has shown us that life isn’t a fairy tale, mainly because values like, persistence, resilience, honesty and loyalty are becoming too expensive for people to afford. People close to us, remind us everyday that love doesn’t last. That if you dream too high you could crash harder, they try do destroy your ambitions because theirs were shattered along time ago. You should never seek advice about marriage from a person that has already failed on it, the same way you should never ask financial advice to someone that is always poor.

Choose wisely who you seek for advice, people around you will either make or corrupt your spirit.

Forgive someone that has hurt you, they are just lost, seeking something that you couldn’t provide. Be careful of people that pretend to be strong and are always testing you, they will need constant reassurance of your love or friendship. These people are self-destructible and will break your spirit and make you doubt yourself, it will lead you into vicious cycle. 

Forgiving is dangerous because you might want to help that person but if that person has hurt you, make no mistake, it is not your job to fix it. A broken person is dangerous and it can rot your spirit leading you to a life of misery. They will have to recognise their flaws and improve. We don't change easily, in the end we are all big babies and we won’t change without punishment. If someone mistreats you and you take them back you will show them that it is ok to treat you like that.

Forgive, do it for yourself. Be free of this pain, don’t be bitter. Please don’t stop believing that there are beautiful people out there, because there is.

Never lose hope.